If only we viewed our bodies through our best friend’s eyes.
Let’s talk about confidence – This weekend I was on a hen do, before going I was totally anxious about the whole thing! I only knew a couple of girls going, and the whole thing was a little outside my comfort zone!
The other girls all seemed so confident, glamourous and beautiful! But do you know what? They were all just the same as me! All worried about not knowing anyone, all anxious about their appearance, all concerned about the ‘other’ girls!
Guess what happened? We had the most incredible time! Everyone got on like a house on fire. (whatever that means) We laughed, we danced, we went sightseeing, we celebrated, we might have had a little something to drink! It was soooo much fun! A truly lovely group of girls and I’ve genuinely made some new friends! (Edinburgh is an amazing city too!)
But during this weekend one thing stood out to me. NO ONE is happy with their bodies. The 11 girls I went away with were all gorgeous, all different shapes, sizes and styles but all stunning. But not one of us got up in the morning, got ready and said, “wow I look awesome today” not one. Yet everyone is so quick to say; ‘you look gorgeous’ ‘that dress is awesome on you’ ‘your make up is beaut’ why can’t we look at ourselves and see this?
How many times have you had a conversation with a friend along the lines of
“I love your legs, I wish mine were longer like yours”
“oh, I hate my legs, you’re so tiny, I wish I was more petit like you”
Stop it! We all need to stop it! We are all gorgeous! All in our own way. Go to the mirror right now (well after you finish reading this) and say one good thing about your appearance. Do this every single day! We need to be more confident, we need to be kinder of yourselves. If your best friend looked exactly the way you do right now what would you tell them?
Here’s another thing, while we’re at it. If someone gives you a compliment say THANK YOU! Accept it, embrace it, appreciate it! (how often does this happen? “your hair looks nice” “oh no, it needs cut”)
Treat yourself the way you treat others! (unless you’re a mean bully who always puts people down!) Body shaming someone else is horrendous – why is it ok to body shame ourselves?!